Why is Donald Trump obsessed with controlling vaginas?

Donald Trump giving a speech

Image © Gage Skidmore

Let’s talk about vaginas.

If you have one, I assume you think you should be in charge of what goes into and comes out of it. If you don’t have one, you’d probably agree that it’s not your place to tell someone who does have one what they can do with it.

Unless you’re Donald Trump and his buddies.

Not content to simply control vaginas in America, Trump has decided that he needs to control ALL VAGINAS, EVERYWHERE.

On his first full day in office, Trump signed a bill putting a ban on federal money going to international groups that perform or provide information on abortions. Controlling vaginas was at the top of his agenda, even above that stupid Mexican wall he’s always banging on about. He just couldn’t wait to start messing with the world’s lady business.

This could have a major impact on NGOs that provide women’s health services in places where they’re desperately needed. Charity Marie Stopes International estimates that the loss of its services during Trump’s first term could cause 6.5 million unintended pregnancies, 2.1 million unsafe abortions and 21,700 maternal deaths. It would also prevent them from reaching 1.5 million women with contraception each year.

But just because they’ve exerted their power over millions of international vaginas, don’t think that Trump and his friends have forgotten about American lady parts. Oh no.

The day after signing what’s know as the ‘global gag rule’, House Republicans voted to permanently ban US women from receiving any federal financial assistance for abortion too – for example, if they’re insured through public programs like Medicaid or purchase private health insurance through Affordable Care Act exchanges.

The Hyde Amendment makes exceptions for women who get pregnant through rape or incest, or if their lives are endangered by the pregnancy, but there are no exceptions for mental health issues, maternal health problems or fetal abnormalities.

The amendment already existed, but Congress had to vote to extend it each year. But no longer. Now it’s a permanent way to ensure that it’s super hard for poor women to end unwanted pregnancies.

Now, I’m not a big fan of Donald getting his tiny hands all up in the world’s vaginas. But I’m also not pro-abortion.

I don’t think being pro-abortion is a thing. No one is going around saying, “You know what would be great? If we all had more abortions.” But I am pro-woman (given that I am one, and was raised by one, and am raising one), and I think every woman has the right to choose what she does with her body.

I’ve been pregnant, and it’s hard in every possible way. Physically. Mentally. Emotionally. You cry, you leak, you worry, you don’t sleep, you are stupidly fat for a very long time. It’s not something you should force someone to go through unless they’re really up for it.

And you know what’s even harder? Being a parent. This is a job that you really need to want, because it’s yours for life. Forcing people into a job that they’re not prepared for and can’t quit is as cruel as it gets.

I’ve often wondered why pro-lifers don’t push for free birth control. Surely if you want people to have fewer abortions, you should make it as easy as possible for them to prevent unwanted pregnancies in the first place. Birth control in the US can cost up to $50 per month – money that many women simply don’t have. It should be more like the UK, where getting birth control pretty much goes like this:

Woman: I want some birth control.

Doctor: Cool. Here’s a bunch of it. FOR FREE.

Okay, there’s a bit more too it than that – the doctor will ask questions about your medical history first – but it’s a pretty straightforward process.

So, Trump and Trump’s buddies, how about putting less effort into controlling our vaginas, and putting a little more effort into giving us what we need to control our own?

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22 Comment

  1. AGREED! I’m with you 100 per cent, and the fact that they don’t wish to provide free or affordable birth control just goes to show that this is not about being “pro-life” or getting all teary over the poor little foetuses, but about controlling women and making sure we know our place, as breeding machines, obviously.

  2. AGREED! I’m with you 100 per cent, and the fact that they don’t wish to provide free or affordable birth control just goes to show that this is not about being “pro-life” or getting all teary over the poor little foetuses, but about controlling women and making sure we know our place, as breeding machines, obviously.

  3. AGREED! I’m with you 100 per cent, and the fact that they don’t wish to provide free or affordable birth control just goes to show that this is not about being “pro-life” or getting all teary over the poor little foetuses, but about controlling women and making sure we know our place, as breeding machines, obviously.

  4. I love your posts Katie and this is no exception, albeit infuriating (Trumps fault, of course) – you have enlightened me on a few things here. Just when you think the man couldn’t get much worse eh!? xx

  5. Wow Min agreed 😉 I’ve always wondered about that too. Condoms all round! Also why do these prolifers not give two hoots about kids once they are born?? Grr.

  6. Oh no. Why, why why?! There I am trying to convince myself that he can change, that there are positives in there somewhere and then he goes and opens his big mouth again and does awful things like this. Why, why, why!? What is actually going on in his head, why does he think he has the right to decide for a woman. Don’t answer that, I know the answer. URGH. I have to hope it can get better. In the meantime we need to carry on marching and writing and shouting. #FridayFrolics

  7. I’ve had an abortion, I’m not proud of it but equally I’m not ashamed of it. It happened, it was a difficult situation but it was the right decision. It was done in a safe environment and I thank my lucky stars for that. What breaks my heart is that men, seemingly important and power hungry men are doing their utmost to try and stop women being afforded the same in various countries throughout the world. This is not OK. This is draconian and I fear for our women, the girls who might one day find themselves in a situation I have, where contraception has failed them. And then not only has contraception failed them but the people in power have failed them too.
    I’m passionate about this, if you couldn’t tell.
    #fridayfrolics

  8. The whole thing is so depressing … It’s not only the refusal to provide decent birth control, but the refusal to provide the facilities to make actual childcare easier – decent creches, education, benefits etc. It’s like they love them until they’re born. Gah! (Must.Stop.Ranting) Great post that I totally agree with

  9. Well said, and I agree it has to start with birth control which should be freely available. #fridayfrolics

  10. The sad thing too is that the vast majority of those who will suffer at his hands, are the very people who voted for him. Thanks for highlighting this – we live in a more frightening world than before Jo #fridayfrolics

  11. Words cannot describe how much I loathe this man…great post! Latest #fridayfrolics

  12. I totally agree with you. How can this have been so high on Trump’s agenda that he had to deal with it immediately he came to office? Don’t get me started on what I think of him. Birth control should be freely available. All those ‘male’ politicians that passed the bill have NO IDEA!
    #fortheloveofBlog

  13. Echo all the comments here. I’m getting madder by the minute every time I hear what that man has done/said next. I’m also growing sadder for all the women across the globe whose life chances are going to be blighted by the actions of one bigot. What a world we currently live in 🙁

  14. I couldn’t have put it any better myself, this completely reflects my own views! I am pro-life, especially when it comes to myself – but as you put it, it’s my vagina and that’s my decision! I also believe that women should have the choice to do with what they do with theirs and it’s their choice whether they have an abortion or not; I’m well aware that there are many good reasons to do so, even if it’s not something I can see myself ever personally choosing to do.
    I’m very concerned about the amount of women that are going to go through with unwanted pregnancies and go through dangerous back-alley style abortions due to this. Birth control should definitely be supplied freely.
    I really do wonder what Melania thinks about all this. #FortheloveofBLOG

  15. Great post. The whole situation is so frustrating. It won’t stop abortion. It might stop safe abortion. But desperate women will always find a way, usually at the hands of backstreet providers or, even worse, DIY methods. I’ve read some absolutely horrendous accounts of women using sharpened sticks and various other implements to end pregnancies in countries where the state doesn’t provide access to safe and legal abortion—often leading to severe disability, if not death. I’m so angry about all this. Thanks for writing about it.

  16. I meant to add #fortheloveofBLOG, I got too carried away 🙂

  17. I get so angry when I look at that orange son of a gun, it’s unreal! So many great points you made and I’ve also questioned why pro-lifers won’t offer free birth control or improved sex Ed in schools for instance… all the progress that women have made is now being reversed. The worst thing is that apparently he used to be pro-choice but clearly changed his mind as knew this would win him the public vote.

  18. Well said. Both of my pregnancies were planned and I have never been in a situation where abortion was a consideration. But because I have never been in that situation I can honestly say that I have no idea what decision I would make. But the point is, it should be my decision, my choice. My basic human right to decide what happens with my body. And I will stop there before I rant any further! Thanks for linking up to #FridayFrolics

  19. Gah, this man makes me so cross. He has taken it upon himself to play lord and saviour over everyone’s foof when he doesn’t have a clue about the actual real life repercussions. It’s only the poor and women affected so it’s not a big deal eh?!?
    The so called leader of the free world is making his world less free daily.
    Thanks for a fab, well thought out piece! #fortheloveofblog

  20. The whole thing is so frustrating. I agree it’s a total no-brainer to provide free birth control to prevent unwanted pregnancies. But Americans (even some I’m related to, I’m afraid) have this weird idea that they don’t want their taxes to pay for “other people’s choices”. So the unrealistic expectation is if you can’t afford birth control, then you shouldn’t have sex. It is beyond the ridiculous. #fortheloveofBLOG

  21. He may certainly be the single worst man in the world, unless of course you count Bannon, who is the puppet-master behind it all. #eatsleepblogRT It is terrifying over here. xoxo

  22. Well said! And that is exactly it, isn’t it? Pro-lifers like to pretend that their opposition is ‘pro-abortion’, which is clearly ridiculous. As you say, no one is ‘pro-abortion’. No one has it on their list of fun hobbies. It is called ‘pro-choice’ for a reason. I think George W imposed the global gag rule too, didn’t he? With pretty dire consequences. Thanks so much for joining us on #FridayFrolics

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