What happens when the Guardian writes about mummy blogs

Woman sitting on a bed and typing on a laptop

The Guardian has been writing about mummy blogs. And, not surprisingly, people have a lot to say about it.

I love the Guardian, but I’m not usually a big fan of Guardian commenters, who tend to be up their own ar**s. Some of them genuinely want to add to the discussion and have a debate, but most of them just want to say, “This article is the worst thing I’ve ever read and is so insulting to my vast intelligence that I need to express my displeasure in the snarkiest way possible.” It makes for pretty irritating reading, but at least the SHOUTY CAPS are kept to a minimum and words are mostly spelled correctly.

So there’s that.

The article is about the rise of ‘slummy mummies’ who write about the less glamorous aspects of parenting, like Hurrah for Gin and The Unmumsy Mum. Rather than posting Instagrammable pictures of their kids making homemade bread, they post pictures of themselves drinking wine in a toy-strewn living room.

Popple in the middle of the living room surrounded by toys
For most of us, real life with kids looks kind of like this.

I love these bloggers. They’re funny, talented writers who have created safe places for parents to admit that parenting isn’t all cuddles and crafts and family photos in matching jumpers. Sometimes it’s gross and weird, but laughter helps – and yes, so does wine.

Not everyone agrees, obviously. You can probably see where this is going.

Some comments on the article included:

Johnnyg63

Why don’t these morons just concentrate on bringing their children up to be decent people?

Johnny, us ‘morons’ are doing our best to raise our kids, but sometimes it’s f***ing hard. Sometimes we just need to laugh at the fact that our toddler put our keys in the toilet or threw a tantrum because we gave them the banana THAT THEY ASKED FOR.

honda17

Too many pretentious mothers around, all pretending they are not very good. Do they expect us to tell them they are doing well? A lot of attention seekers the lot of them!

Honda, I don’t think anyone is pretending here. The truth is, we all have days when we’re not very good parents. Some days we pack a yogurt for our toddler’s lunch but no bib – or wet wipes. Some days we let our kids eat food off the floor or stick their fingers up their nose. We don’t want people to tell us we’re doing well – we want them to say, “Hey, it’s okay – I’ve been there too.”

Antony OBrien

Get back to work then, too many mums have this lovely choice where they don’t have to get back on the ladder again. Lucky them but too much time introspecting about how they look just means they have too much time. Woe betide anyone who states this, as i’m probably about to find out!

Ah, the lovely choice of not going back to work! The choice that forces mothers to give up careers that they may have enjoyed and worked hard for because they can’t afford childcare. The choice to leave a paid job for an unpaid one with unlimited working hours and no benefits. The choice to go all day without having an adult conversation or peeing alone. What lucky women these mums are!

There were, however, some comments in support of these blogs:

giftedamateur

If only someone had been writing this stuff when I had a newborn…I would have felt a lot less alone. Far better that people are sharing the trials and often sheer mind-numbing boredom of parenting rather than burying it all under a pile of Cath Kidson ‘tit tents’ and the latest designer buggies. Being a bit crap at parenting isn’t a lifestyle choice – it’s just the way it is sometimes. And thank God there are women out there now who are prepared to admit it. Leave ’em alone and stop getting all righteous about it.

JessicasRabbit

I find the gin and wine-soaked mummy bloggers hilarious. They reflect how it is sometimes, with an honesty you just can’t share at the school gate. You will always get people who are offended or feel sidelined by such writing, but you have to remember the bloggers do ham it up for entertainment value & it’s not a complete reflection of their actual lives – that would be boring as hell!

clouds9

These blogs are usually very funny. I’m a stay at home mum and have been for 3 and a half years now with a second child now too. I can spend a day without speaking to friends or other parents so find it quite entertaining and refreshing to read the posts. Most aren’t so much about the parenting side more the hilarious situations and things that kids do. It’s nice to have inner thoughts verbalised, a bit of a laugh and the unmumsy mum book is actually really touching in places.

The slummy mummy phrase is a bit misleading and I’m sure is often criticised by people who haven’t read the blogs or spent recent, prolonged time with preschoolers recently. It’s not more literal than the ‘yummy mummy’ thing (who aren’t any more edible than the others are neglectful)

As I scrolled through the comments, getting annoyed and buoyed in turn, one commenter put it all into perspective:

LLOaken

I’m a mum and I don’t feel the need to read blogs about being a mum. It’s pretty much accepted by all my mum friends that sometimes everything is wonderful and sometimes you feel like drinking at 8am. I don’t need to hear this from other mums in blog form but if others want to read them then that’s their business. I don’t think we need to get annoyed about it, take it or leave it.

A very reasonable approach to parenting blogs – and the internet, and life in general. If blogs about frustrated mums getting sloshed after the kids go to bed make you laugh or feel better about your own parenting, read them. If they don’t, don’t read them. Simple.

In the words of the wise and wonderful Amy Poehler: “Good for you, not for me.”

Amy Poehler
Amen, sister.

33 Comment

  1. Excellent stuff. Don’t like it don’t read it, don’t have a snarky hissy fit and leave cruel comments.

  2. Loved this. I haven’t read the article in the Guardian yet but totally agree with the sentiments you’ve expressed here. #tribe

  3. What annoys me is that we’re pigeon-holed as either ‘slummy mummies’ or ‘yummy mummies’ and then pitched against each other. Actually we’re all a bit of everything sometimes and I don’t hate/ begrudge/ belittle a parent who is particularly yummy or particularly slummy on a day I’m not.

  4. Ugh I can’t believe the ignorance of some people, do they really think parenting is easy?! At least some people can approach it with a decent perspective, as you said! Well said post xx #stayclassymama

  5. Love this post! Thank you so much for writing this! I think that those people don’t have a clue what they are bloody talking about! Probably men who have never done it and would beg for mercy if they were to do it for 1 full day! They should open their mind or if those mummy bloggers are not their cup of tea, then they should go back to their little newspaper! Sorry, but really angry now 😈😛 Idiots!!! #StayClassyMama

  6. Oh I’ve been wanting to read this since it dropped into my inbox and so glad I’ve finally found the time. Great read and so agree with the final comment ‘take it or leave it’ – personally, I think the people with the most time on their hands are those that have the bloody time to write a nasty comment! #ablogginggoodtime

  7. Right. I’m on one with this.

    While I’m not a mummy blogger, personally I’m actually quite offended. I’m also pissed off with the Guardian because of all the nationals, I didn’t expect them to be the ones to stoop so low as this. This is Daily Mail territory usually. Those arsehole commenters are also DM typical too.
    Why the frig have the media got to keep bashing women? I’m sick of it. Literally sick to the back teeth. An overhaul of the way news and articles are written is urgently required. #stayclassy

  8. I never understand people who take time to read a blog and then leave a comment to say they hate to. Life is too short!

    #stayclassy

  9. Hmm, i think if you delved not too deeply at all you’d find the majority of negative comments are from men. Well, guess what men, Im not writing my blog FOR YOU. Dont like it, dont read it . #stayclassymama

  10. It’s awful reading the comments section on any news story, but when you’re one of the group that is being discussed, it makes for particularly infuriating reading! I personally don’t post stuff that is too negative about parenting as I like to use my blog to turn around bad situations and re-evaluate how I feel about them. Having said that, I think it’s so helpful when you’re having ‘one of those days’ and somebody says to you, “You’re not the only one. I’ve been there too.” #ABloggingGoodTime

  11. I think what gets me is that the people who comment are quite happy to spend their time reading a mostly biased article and take it as truth, rather than spend some time investigating themselves. The other thing is, if they aren’t interested in what we have to say, then no one is making them read it! I love reading mummy and parenting blogs, but don’t want to read blogs about fashion – but I’m not going to have a go at people who are writing those types of blogs – I’m just not going to read them! Madness!! #ablogginggoodtime

  12. Some of the comments on news articles are just hilarious. Well, I mean you have to laugh or you’d cry. #ablogginggoodtime

  13. “Get back to work”??? I can’t get job that pays enough cover childcare for my twins and afterschool for my daughter, and I have no family nearby to help you A-hole. Honestly, some people! I would suggest that the positive comments have come from those that actually read the blogs so that’s good. The others can bite me. #ablogginggoodtime

  14. I really enjoyed reading this Katie. There seems to be a bit of blogger bashing going on at the moment maybe the guardian are just jumping on that bandwagon (heaven forbid!) Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

  15. I read this article because Hurrah for Gin posted it on her Facebook page, with the comment: I don’t have a clue what this article is trying to say! I say that parents need to feel that others are going through the same shit, as well as experiencing similar highs. But it’s the shitty bits that really help when they are shared. Being a parent can be lonely and reading blogs about other struggling parents is so refreshing. You just nod along and a wave of relief pours over you: so it’s not just me then? Aaaah…I don’t like reading car manuals…so I don’t. Alison x #ablogginggoodtime

  16. Love the term slummy mummy and your comments are great!
    #StayClassyMama

  17. Great post! The truth is that people with no kids will never understand parenthood until they become parents themselves, and I’m sure, these are the most who write negative comments. Parents know better, they don’t judge so severely, they don’t ask reproachfully why you haven’t gone back to your full-time job yet, and yes, they sometimes drink wine. 😀 x #effitfriday

  18. Yes, yes, yes!!! Love this refreshing “reply to the haters” post! I think the #slummymummies keep it real. So glad I found this site!

  19. #ablogginggoodtime interesting and something I hadn’t thought about? I like the variety of writers, opinions and different blogs out there. Just like all parents, I guess we’re individual.

  20. I haven’t read the article yet, must go look. I happen to like both those bloggers though.
    Guardian commenters can be so “interesting”. I sometimes wonder if they are actually rude idiots or just being annoying for the fun of it! #effitfriday

  21. Ah this annoyed me too – I still don’t understand in general why people get so bent out of shape when they read a blog they disagree with. As you say, if you don’t like it…just click away! Fab post x #stayclassymama #ablogginggoodtime

  22. Ugh the comments are the worst! Ppl love to hide behind the Internet to say unkind things – if you don’t like something then just don’t read it! #stayclassymama

  23. I missed this feature but can’t say I’m surprised. Just like journalists bloggers get a hard time in the media (says a journalist AND a blogger!) #ablogginggoodtime

  24. I think that most of this people who puts comments it like that don’t have kids. They don’t know how real life looks like probably too much Keep with the Kardashian. Or simply they are jealous because of someone else’s success.
    #EatSleepBlogRT

  25. That Guardian article was such a load of crap, I read it twice and couldn’t work out what point they were actually trying to make! I’m not sure the writer has actually read the blogs in question…
    #eatsleepblogrt

  26. I’m so glad it’s not just me that gets ranty at the comments sections of news articles! Lol #StayClassyMama

  27. I often find The Guardian and its commenters pretentious as hell, like you said 😂 This isn’t a bad article though.

    I consider myself a fairly balanced blogger – I write plenty about the challenges but I like to share the fun and positives too. I love the bloggers the article mentioned though and enjoy the comedy and the honestly. I’m a big fan of all parents being honest, as it can help others who may be struggling.

    Thanks for this post, a great round up of comments xx #EatSleepBlogRT

  28. I quite often cringe when I read the comments section in most on-line papers. People can be so nasty in what they say and most of them are not well thought out. I just ignore them now. #EatSleepBlogRT

  29. Well said! I read the article but it annoyed me so much I didn’t hang around to read the comments. I really enjoy these blogs but if I didn’t I simply wouldn’t read them. I wouldn’t follow them on social media at all to be honest. I don’t like blogs of young singletons who can do what they want when they want (simply jealous of course) but I don’t moan about them.
    #eatsleepblogrt

  30. Thank you! If these people who were commenting had to look after a child for a week, they would be driven to drink too! if you don’t like it, don’t read it! #EatSleepBlogRT

  31. Great post! Love this! Parenting is not all baking and reading books. Most days I want to rip my hair out. Some days you need to read these posts from these amazing bloggers to make you realise parenting is this crazy and difficult and every single parent, no matter how rich, poor, old, young we all experience horrendous days where you feel like throwing the towel in. Thank you for sharing #EatSleepBlogRT

  32. This is why I never read the comments I always get agitated! I wasn’t really sure what the article was saying either, be perfect? Be slummy? Be anything?!! Seems to me it was a quick filler piece that was click bait riding on the success of others!

  33. I agree totally with the view that you don’t have to read things – I wish more people realised this. Rather than getting incensed all the time. If you don’t like it then it ignore it. No ones forcing you to have an opinion. Thanks for linking with #EatSleepBlogRT

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